What happens when you lose your way?
March 27th 2007 15:07
What do you do when you are so swayed by other people's words that you end up feeling like a part of you is discarded or ignored? The words weren't meant to hurt and of course we all have different beliefs that don't necessarily correlate with mine, but still I'm finding it hard to settle my uneasy feelings.
Do you go back to your own beliefs, question them, berate yourself, forget them or become angry? I'm sure there are other options but at the moment I'm oscillating between believing what was said, feelings of there must be something wrong with me and anger. All of which don’t seem that useful.
It's times like this that I wish I had one of those personalities where I can shrug off things that bother me...but I don't, I tend to wade through these things and dive into thoughts that don't help. I'd love some roborant thoughts if anyone has any....
Do you go back to your own beliefs, question them, berate yourself, forget them or become angry? I'm sure there are other options but at the moment I'm oscillating between believing what was said, feelings of there must be something wrong with me and anger. All of which don’t seem that useful.
It's times like this that I wish I had one of those personalities where I can shrug off things that bother me...but I don't, I tend to wade through these things and dive into thoughts that don't help. I'd love some roborant thoughts if anyone has any....
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Comment by Wendi
I didn't say something stupid without realizing it, did I? (reflecting on old posts/messages)
W
Comment by katyzzz
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Life is forever evolving and when you get to my age you realize that unless one hops on for the ride, suddenly you'll find your evolution is finished and you've missed out along the way.
Enjoy the search and your quest, forget the rest. Life is too short.
katyzzz.....loved the question mark.
Comment by Ash
Flashes of memories
We sound like we have a lot in common. I have stared at this blinking cursor for over 5 minutes thinking of something to say...and I can`t because I can never understand how others are able to so easily shrug these things off.
All I can share with you is that I feel the same way at the moment and that is why I am trying to find what it is I believe in...because I figure if you don`t know what you really believe then then how can you see through what other people say? Although a building that will forever change and grow a sturdy foundation should ensure for some solid brickwork...
I hope you find your way Tracy and the answers to go with the question marks. Like Wendi said :
ash
Comment by yoda76
The Tube Blog
Hope you find your way back.
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
I just read your Lost post, it does seem that we are in synch at the moment. Thanks for your thoughts, they are much appreciated (and no, you didn't say anything in one of your posts, but thanks for asking).
Sending you peaceful thoughts,
Tracy
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
Thanks for your advice, I like these statements :
I guess Tracy, when you lose your way, you go look for it. No self beratement is necessary.
and
Enjoy the search and your quest, forget the rest. Life is too short.
Much appreciated, katyzzz.
Tracy
Comment by Wendi
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Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
Thank-you for your thoughts, I appreciate them.
I'm sure I'll get there even if the path is a bit wonky at times
Tracy
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
Wise words that I appreciate:
All I can share with you is that I feel the same way at the moment and that is why I am trying to find what it is I believe in...because I figure if you don`t know what you really believe then then how can you see through what other people say? Although a building that will forever change and grow a sturdy foundation should ensure for some solid brickwork...
Very true, something that I'm working towards. Thank-you.
Tracy
PS It's the real world that was causing the uneasiness, definitely not the Orble world
Comment by David
If it's a question of fatih? ...
I think your own faith has to be firm and unshakeable ... Once it is? How can anyone make you doubt it? ... They won't throw anything at you, you haven't already considered yourself ...
And I think you do have to question your own faith a lot before you arrive at this stage ... (even other faiths ...
It's not much different to anything else ... you only become proficient and confident by knowing your subject matter inside-out ...
They're my random thoughts on the matter ...
David ...
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
I would find it almost impossible to be offended by anything you said, no need to worry
Tracy
Comment by missnomer
The only time I question my beliefs if and when they are challenged is to check to see if they are still applicable....I mean ...try to make sure they are not outdated beliefs that I have hung onto out of habit......if they are still serving me and unshakeable...then sod the person who is making me feel this way......Most people have their own opinions and beliefs....like a fingerprint of the soul...and we cant all agree all the time and sometimes not at all.......anyone who tries to push their beliefs onto someone else and not allow that person to have their own personal belief system ... to believe what is right for them, is to me a person who needs to sit down and have a good look at themselves and their motives for not allowing another to have their own opinions adn express there thoughts, wishes and desires accordingly...Sorry this has come out a bit jumbled....
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Comment by Mrs M
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The most contentious time in my life started when I became a parent. Some parents can be nasty with their words.
And yes, there were times when I lost my way too but after a while I got thick skinned. Not so much because I got used to the barrage of comments but more that I trusted my instinct which to this day has never proven me wrong. And from there I got confident.
Forget what any of us have to say, what does your gut say?
Love & stuff
Mrs M
Comment by KylieW
Celebrity Obsession
Unfortunately i don't have any real words of wisdom here. I unfortunately am one of those people who can see both sides of any argument and come up with rationalisations for any side. And then end up thoroughly confused!
But I would echo Mrs M's question:
If there's one thing I've come to trust over the years, it's my gut instinct. My head can be too rational and it fails to make a decision. My heart is totally illogical. But my gut usually knows just what is going on.
Hope you find your way. Hugs
Kylie
Comment by Candice
I can understand how you're feeling. I can be very sensitive to other people's opinions which can sometimes make me question my own beliefs. Personally, I have found that I will always hold onto my own values. So, if the people I'm around don't echo them fairly closely then they're people best not to be around.
I hope that made even a scrap of sense.
Comment by DuskDevi
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What happens when you lose your way?
....you find your will.
And you will.
much warmth Tracy
Dusk
Comment by Lilla
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I don't really understand what this post is about ... yet. Things usually take about a week with me... but such is my brain, as menopausal symptoms and the red wine, begin to have their way with me...
SometimesOftenmost of the time, I feel like I don't know who I am either... It's just something that happens I think when you have a sympathetic nature? [and when you hit a certain age]...Anyway, I feel sad, because I can feel your sadness and all literary devices aside... that is what governs my sixth sense and my comments... my feelings...
So, what I am trying to say is that I am sorry that you feel sad and hope you feel happy again soon. I won't try and cheer you up, because I know when it's me, who's the sad one...? Well, only I can cheer myself up, usually... and I honestly don't know if I've ever been really happy anyway, to begin with...well until I came to Orble *jj*
... better late than never, I always say...
Anyway, hope you find the yellow brick road again, soon.
Lilla ...
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
Thanks for your comments, what you said made good sense. I've been evaluating my thoughts, working out what applies and what doesn't and now I feel far more peaceful.
Best wishes,
Tracy
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
Thanks for your advice and insight, that made perfect sense to me. I agree with choosing not to be around certain people whose beliefstend to make mine shaky. I'm working on being stronger in my own beliefs then my reactions would be more solid.
Thanks again,
Tracy
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
You are spot on, I found my will and I'm hanging onto it
Thanks for your words,
Tracy
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
Thanks for your words, yes I think my post was a bit cryptic. Basically I was with someone who said something to me that fitted perfectly with how I see myself, ie lacking in something. So instead of doing what I tend to do, osciallate wildly between anger and retreating or try and eject the feelings, I thought I would sit with the uncomfortable feelings and throw around some other sorts of reactions I could have....and it's worked. Sorry about that really long sentence too!
I'm still hurt but I'm nowhere near as affected as I would normally be. I think what David said about faith is good too, I need more solid faith.....
I can also relate to the menstrual symptons (I'm not menopausal)...but I am so forgetful and scatty around that time....which has its advantages sometimes!!
Thank-you for your wishes, they are much appreciated. I've found my yellow brick road and I'm aiming not to take any side streets that might be dead ends....
Byeee
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
Thanks for your thoughts. I do think it's a matter of faith, I need more when it comes to my own beliefs and myself in general.
Thank-you, I'm pondering away now.....
Comment by MelissaA
Fun Facts
Hopefully as you tread the path to finding yourself and your way again, things will turn out so much better for you that this thing that has set this in motion, and that when you look back it will appear as nothing but a small, faint blip on the radar from long times past.
In the meantime, I'll try to find some things to make you laugh.
Comment by Lily
Ars Poetica
love and buttercups under your chin
~Lily
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
Your posts always make me laugh, thanks for them!
Tracy
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
Very true words, hanging onto own beliefs can sometimes be so hard. It surprises me how shaky they can be in certain situations, but then I guess it’s telling me something important. Perhaps I need to put some protective armour on in some circumstances, not to be defensive but to be more shielded.
I love your words: ‘love and buttercups under your chin’.
I think they might be there soon, thanks for your words,
Tracy
Comment by Kleonaptra
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Have I mentioned I love your banner? I like that cool purple symbol, with the fireworks its magic
Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
I know just what you mean...I've tried convincing myslef that these things don't affect me, but they just spill out elsewhere...that's why I was determined to do something different this time.
Thanks for your compliment about my banner...I did it in Photoshop which was fun....but I just did a new post and now it's missing in action.....
Byeee and have a good day,
Tracy